To Be or Not to Be…..
October 26, 2009
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A few weeks ago Timm did a series called The Dip. He talked about how we all go through dips in our lives, they are either financial, relational or spiritual. Each week he focused on one type of dip. For me, the most powerful sermon in the series was the one about relationships. Most of us have that “one relationship” that seems next to impossible to manage. Currently, I have two of those relationships. Truth be told, one of the relationships is virtually nonexistent. The other has gone from a friend/professional relationship to strictly a professional relationship. At the end of the sermon, Timm said to write down on a piece of paper the “thing” that one person in our life needs. Then he told us to give or be that “thing” to the person. Not what I wanted to hear at that time, but definitely what I needed to hear.
I am excited to say, in one of the relationships, I am on my way to forgiving that person. I have a long road ahead of me, but everyday I recommit to forgiving. Forgiveness was the “thing” that person needed. And oddly enough, forgiveness was something I needed to give. I feel much better now, so much happier, not carrying around all the disappointment I had for the person.
As for the other relationship, I am not ready to give or be the “thing” that person needs. In the past I have been that “thing” to the person and time after time I have gotten the same outcome. Not all relationships are not meant to last, some come and go, and maybe this one falls into that category. It takes two people to make a relationship work and if other person refuses to try then why should I ? I am completely exhausted by this relationship and I do not have the want or the energy to attempt to repair it. Hopefully one day I will.
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tianac |
October 29, 2009 at 11:59 pm
I completely understand… there is definitely a former relationship that God has really given me peace that it is just that a former relationship. It worked when it was suppose to work and then it was time for other relationships to form.
We still need to do our girls night out!! Just let me know & I’m there
Love ya girl!